I am actually an extroverted introvert. Ignoring my social anxiety for a second, I love hanging out with my small group of friends but I don’t talk much. I let my friends talk and I get to hear about their lives and all of their stories. This doesn’t necessarily mean that I don’t like talking or socializing, it’s just that I may not think I have anything to say that would contribute to the conversation or I may just want to hang out with my friends and just listen.
I prefer talking one on one rather than in a small group because we don’t need to use small talk and we can have more deep intimate conversations. I like these conversations much more because then we get to know each other better. Although I do like hanging out with my friends, afterwards I will definitely go on Netflix or YouTube or read for an hour or two so that I can recharge because socializing is exhausting. This also applies to the opposite scenario. If I am alone for too long I do become lonely, I can not go without socializing for too long, I need to balance socializing with alone time which is sometimes very difficult.
Although I like hanging out with my friends, it will usually take a lot of convincing for me to go hang out but once I do, I always have fun. There are times where I just can’t be around people when my friends want to hang out and I always feel so guilty for saying no and staying home instead. I would never want my friends to think that I don’t want to hang out with them because I would love to, I just can’t.
My favourite place to just hang out is a place where there are people but I can do my own thing such as a cafe, the common area in my dorm, the cafeteria. That way I can be around people but I don’t have to talk to them. Although, when I do talk to people, my friends often point out that I appear very flirtatious when I talk to others but I believe that is only because I want to skip the small talk and have more meaningful conversations with them. I also want to make sure that they know that they have my full attention and that I am interested in what they have to say.